Honoring Headship in an Age of Feminism


Two years ago I wrote a blog post entitled “Why I Cover,” which was largely an attempt to explain to the curious souls I imagined to exist within my sphere of influence, my reason for always wearing some sort of bandana or scarf or hat on my head in public. I remember how vulnerable it felt to share my very personal thoughts on a subject I believed to be quite controversial, but I was pleasantly surprised at how well-received it was. I hope that those who read this next installment will hear my heart with the same level of grace.

Let me begin by reiterating again that I do not claim to have superior understanding of the passage of scripture cited for the principle of Headship. I am aware that there are different interpretations of the original text and that what is meant by “covering” has been beaten to death in debate with various sides believing their view to be Spirit-revealed. I have no desire whatsoever to reenter that debate.

I suppose that the deeper rooting and grounding of one’s beliefs and values and yes, even soapboxes, is an inevitable aspect of the passing of time and age. I also feel that a belief like the one I’m sharing today tends to be driven deeper by its increasing contrast to the popular or commonly-held views it’s surrounded by. And so, my commitment to covering my head as a visible reminder that I am not my own has only been strengthened since the time of my original post.

I’ve watched in amazement as feminist thought and glorified empowerment of women have infiltrated the hearts and minds of even the most “conservative” circles I’m a part of. I see even women who are still wearing the Anabaptist church-mandated head covering rallying with those marching for “women’s rights” and subtly buying into the idea that motherhood and wifehood and homemaking and the nurture and support of our families that we were created for are inferior to the entrepreneurship and social media influence and market presence that seem to define success and value among my generation of millenials. They might not admit it, but they’re living it. I hesitate to say any more here at risk of stepping on toes, but it bothers me enough and has bothered me for long enough that I can’t keep quiet about it any longer.

It feels more important than ever to me to continue to live out the Biblical symbol of headship, recognizing as I cover my head that Man is the head of Woman and that Christ is the head of man. (See also Ephesians 5:22-24.) As a woman, I was created to help, support, and commune with man, to be his companion. There is no shame in being “weaker” (reference to 1 Peter 3:7). Since it is what God intended, it is my honor!

Our world today is SO confused about gender. Gender defining, gender roles, gender equality…it’s all been so tarnished and twisted. I used to wonder why the writer of Genesis repeatedly emphasized “male and female they were created.” I don’t wonder that anymore. Misogyny, feminism, homosexuality, gender confusion…it seems clear to me that these are all tools of the enemy to work against the Lord’s design for humankind and the way they interact with and relate to each other. And I want no part in any of them! So I physically guard myself against his schemes by daily reaching for the symbol I’ve chosen to remind myself of the truth and beauty of the order of Headship. I am not my own, nor do I want to be.


7 thoughts on “Honoring Headship in an Age of Feminism

  1. I have recently come to some of your same conclusions. While I wasn’t raised in an Anabaptist church, I was raised in an area where many, many live, so I was familiar with head covering. For years, I struggled with the typical answer I would get from pastors and friends who explained away I Cor. 11 as merely cultural to the time/city of Corinth. Within the last several months, however, with much, much research and study, I’ve come to cover my head, and as you say, it has been a joy to be physically reminded that I am not my own.

    Along with this, I’ve also recently decided to try and wear mostly dresses and skirts, especially when out in public, for the same reasons you state about covering and headship. I feel like these tangible, physical, on-purpose-for-a-purpose choices that the Lord led me to doing are another witness to this very confused world; that God made MAN and WOMAN, that we each have equality in His eyes yet were created for different roles (which were on purpose to show the world the Gospel, the picture of Christ and His Church), and that by choosing to be obviously feminine by what I wear on my body and on my head, I can more clearly share these truths to the world.

    Thank you for expressing your thoughts and Biblical truth in such a clear way. May God bless you richly as you humbly live for Him!

  2. I love the spirit of this. I wear an Anabaptist style covering, in support of the church that God has called me to support, but I love your style of head covering. I agree with you that we as I church are losing out on the beauty behind this principle.

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